After over two and half years in recovery and over a decade of therapy, the smallest things can throw me back into my old thinking. What a terrible feeling!
Yesterday I had a total meltdown. I was by myself during lunch from jury duty and began to panic about all the money I wasn’t making by serving. I went to call my husband and found that my phone would not turn on. That’s when I lost it. Within seconds I was in tears and yelling that I hated my life. All while driving recklessly to find a place to get my phone checked out. I drove around the neighborhood for about fifteen minutes with no direction and then went through a drive thru hoping food would help me calm down. I got ‘the look’ from the kid working the window when he saw the tears streaming down my face but he didn’t say anything. I was too upset to eat once he handed me the food. I threw it into the passenger’s seat and sped away with a new plan. I drove to a friend’s house knowing that he was at work. When he wasn’t home, I used that to continue ranting about the terrible luck I had and how awful my life was. I ended up stopping to use a pay phone a few minutes later and getting a hold of my husband. After about five minutes of talking to him, the panic and rage had passed and everything seemed completely manageable again. He suggested I remove the battery from my phone for a couple minutes and then restarting it. I had thought of that but quit on it when I couldn’t get the back open right away. Of course, this time it was simple and it worked. I was back on track and ready to continue my duty.
That might sound like a painful process to get back to calm and clear-minded, but I did return to the courthouse and sit the rest of the day doing what I was supposed to be doing. A considerable success for someone like me. I wish I didn’t react like that to anything, but I know my journey in recovery is just beginning. I’m really grateful that I don’t take it to the dark places I used to. From the thought “I hate my life”, I find myself looking for support rather than a fix. Pretty cool.